1. Resolve Painful Patterns Once and for All

Have you ever found yourself pondering, "What's wrong with me?" especially when facing persistent issues in your life that neither psychotherapy nor other methods have resolved? This is where Family Constellations (FC) can help you truly breakthrough to new ground and find peace and resolution.

It is one of the four threads of healing work I weave together in a synergy as we work together that brings such rapid relief and resolution of long standing patterns and struggles.

So many of us spend too much time feeling inadequate and flawed. But what if you just aren't looking at your struggles with a wide enough lens? What if the block isn't yours, but something you inherited?

Our current Western culture promotes individualism. Biologically, energetically, and spiritually, this is simply inaccurate. You belong to a larger energy system. This larger energy field is your Family Constellation, or Family System.

A woman is putting her hand on the other woman to calm her

What is a Family Constellation?

A constellation of stars is a particular arrangement of individual stars, with each one in a particular position relative to the others. Together they form a system...such as Orion's Belt, or the Big Dipper.

You occupy a similar position relative to those you are genetically connected to. If you are in a good position where life force and love flow easily to you, things will go well in your life.

When there are unresolved traumas in the system, they block the flow of love and life-force energy. These blocks can resurface or replay, masked as your personal challenge.

Understanding Traumatic Re-enactment.

In your personal life history, if you have experienced an overwhelming or traumatic event which is not resolved, this energy can re-enact in your life. It's like a whirlwind of undigested or undischarged energy that can be triggered out of a dormant state and go on replay.

It does this because it is seeking resolution and healing. No one re-enacts trauma on purpose!

Re-enactment carries many of the same elements of the original trauma, but the circumstances are different.

Traumatic re-enactment is really an unconscious cry for help and healing. So are your symptoms of physical or emotional pain.

Traumatic Re-enactment happens in family systems.

Blocks can be personal. We all have painful experiences growing up. There are no perfect parents, and shit happens.

Blocks can be inherited.

When a trauma occurs in the family that is not resolved, the impact, energy, and nature of that trauma get passed down and can re-enact.

This block can be one generation back in your parent's pain, or it can be 2 generations back in your grandparent's traumas. It can be further back, but in Family Constellations work, all the detective work we need to do usually lives in your 3 generation genogram (next blog post!).

It shows up again, hoping for a healing resolution. Learning how to recognize these re-enacting patterns is the area of expertise for Family Constellations work.

The Goal of Family Constellations work

In Family Constellations work, we aim to uncover and resolve such inherited and personal traumas. These issues may stem from as far back as three generations or more.

Recognizing and addressing these patterns allows you to break the cycle and promote healing.

This blog series will dive deeper into the basics of Constellations work, helping you understand how it might be the solution you've been searching for to resolve deep-seated issues that other therapies have not addressed.