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Sex, Fertility and the Resource Sheet I Give to My Clients.





Ah, your second chakra! Land of the pelvis and the hippy, hippy shakes.


Put on some dance music and get your bass down low. (Yes, dancing will really help to charge up your second chakra, and your whole energy field actually...perhaps, especially Madonna music.)


What, exactly is going on in your sexy second chakra?


 

Psychodynamics of your second chakra.


One of the unique aspects of my 4 year professional training in energy healing at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing is our study of 'psychodynamics'.


This means I spend a lot of time watching what happens in your energy field as you share about your struggles and triumphs.


Every thought, feeling, experience, or memory you have or share, plays out in your aura as energy movement.


I have learned to track this, which gives us a secret extra layer of information that goes deeper than just talking or using the rational mind to sort through your challenges.


Cool thing: I don't have to be able to visually see your energy field to do this (and neither do you). I perceive energy through other senses than sight. When we work together, I help you learn to track your own energy through sensations in your body.


Other cool thing: I am NOT doing this when I am in casual conversation with friends or in social situations. I turn the 'radar' off. It is rude and invasive to 'read' others' energy fields without permission.



This image of your chakras comes from Barbara Brennan's book Hands of Light. It is a great resource to help you learn more about the psychodynamics of your aura and chakras.


 

What is happening in your second chakra?



The front of your 2nd chakra(2A):


➡️ This energy center enters your body just above your pubic bone.


➡️ It expresses the quality of love for a person you feel sexually attracted to.


➡️ Through this centre you give and receive physical, and spiritual pleasure.



The back of your 2nd chakra (2B):


➡️ This energy centre enters your body in the centre of your sacrum, the bone between your buttocks


➡️ The back chakras are 'will' chakras. They move you toward what you desire or feel emotionally drawn to in the chakras on your front body.


➡️ 2B holds your quantity of sexual energy or your libido. This is your will to move towards another in sensual/sexual connection. How easy is it for you to follow your impulse to initiate sex?


➡️ Here you also feel your excitement and will to express creativity.


➡️ This is the second strongest urge of your life force. Your 1st chakra is survival--the will to live. The sacral chakra is desire for sexual union. This force breaks through self-imposed barriers drawing you closer to another. Bring on the dating apps!



Balanced Expression:


Front:


➡️ You will enjoy sexual intercourse and be orgasmic.


➡️ You will feel pleasure in giving and receiving sexual and physical pleasure.


Back:


➡️ A feeling of potency. Your libido is 'on' but not on 'overdrive'.


➡️ You have a life-enhancing quantity of sexual, creative and life force energy.


Unbalanced expression:


➡️ Weakened sexual power and potency. In the 'old days' derogatory words like 'frigid' and 'impotent' were used to describe this kind of 2nd chakra blockage (or trauma).


➡️ Not much sex drive. You may tend to avoid sex or disclaim its importance.


➡️ Use of pornography or engagement in denigrating expressions of sexuality.


➡️ Undernourishment in this area.


➡️ Orgasm bathes the body in life energy. Without sex, we don't receive the energetic nourishment of orgasm, or the psychological nourishment of communion and contact with another (or ourselves!).


 

2nd Chakra Relational Cords.


You also have cords of light and consciousness which connect from your 2nd chakra to the 2nd chakra of those you have genetic connections to (mom and dad) and your lovers.


Here’s what Barbara Brennan says about the cords that connect you to others in your 2nd chakra:


“Cords from the second chakra represent the enjoyment of life’s fecundity in sensual and sexual relationship.


The clearer our relationship to our sensuality and sexuality, the healthier the cords that we will create.


The better a couple is matched sexually, the better the sexual relationship, the healthier, stronger, and more beautiful the cords will be.


Any disorder in the cords will be experienced as a disorder in these areas of our lives.


If we have issues with our sexuality and sensuality, the cords that we grow between the second chakras with the person with whom we are in a sexual relationship will show our problems.


Each time we have sexual contact with another person, we create more cords and remain connected to that person throughout the rest of our lives.


Sometimes this causes confusion in those who have had a lot of sex partners, specially if the relationship was not healthy.


These cords can be cleared and cleaned so that the positive aspects of the connection remain and the negative are healed.


They will never be completely dissolved."


 

I am trained to work with relational cords.


Here is an example of healing work with 2nd chakra relational cords:


Many years ago, I was working wtih a male client.


He felt very challenged in his relationship with his mom, and since that love imprint carries over to our most intimate relationships, a similar dynamic was playing out with his wife.


His mom was very emotionally needy, due to a long unaddressed history of strong trauma (PTSD, undiagnosed). She would reach to him for emotional support in ways that were taxing and even damaging to his energy field and 2nd chakra.


In this case the relational cord connection to his 2nd chakra was not sexual, it was emotional. We have cord connections with our parents (or primary caregivers) through all of our chakras, since we spend so much time learning and relating with them as we grow up.


This man just wanted to avoid his mom. It was so uncomfortable when she would habitually reach to him energetically for needs that really belonged to her own parents.


In his energy field I could see 2nd chakra relational cords from mom hooked into many of his chakras carrying the unconscious emotional statement "If you don't let me latch on, I will die!"


The trauma charge in her field from her wounded inner child was literally that desperate and that strong.


This was causing a narrowing in his whole field as he contracted to try to brace against this energetic request to protect himself from a need that was far beyond his developmental capacity as a child, and still not appropriate as an adult towards his mother.


For him, there was a strong felt need to carry the family success and pride. It was an overburdening responsibility to hold everyone up, and especially to hold mom up, lest the family unit collapse under the emotional pressure. His other brother's and sister's did not have this pattern as strongly as he did.


Mom's 2nd chakra cords were hooked right into his testicles. Again, this was not sexual, it was more an unconscious statement of trying to control his vital energy or 'lean' on him emotionally as a resource.


He had chronic low back pain.


I not only did hands on healing work with his relational cords, we also spent many sessions working with his family system dynamics and inherited trauma patterns through Family Constellations work and helping him to gently find ways to set boundaries and shift the relational dynamics with his parents.


 

Finally, here is the resource sheet I give to my clients if we spend time discussing healthy sexuality:




This resource sheet contains all the folks that I have personally followed and benefited from for my own healthy sex education!


Yes, I am still working on my own healthy sexuality and creativity. I have also had to work on clearing my own sexual trauma.


Your sexual energy is the most potent healing energy you have within you that you can choose to work with.


The Taoist healing systems have a complete set of teachings about awakening and working with your sexual energy, or 'jing'. They teach how to circulate it through all the energy pathways of your body to increase your vitality, love, bliss and to awaken spiritually.


My true wish is that all of our young people receive a sex education like this, which teaches them the sacredness, beauty, pleasure potential and healing path of their own sexuality, as well as deep respect and love for their partner(s), rather than the commodification and denigration of sex that exits in our current culture.


If you have children, I encourage you to learn the full Taoist system of healing love, practice and embody it, and then pass this full education on to your children so they know the true potential held in their body and energy field.


 

➡️ If you need gentle trauma healing around second chakra wounds like sexual assault experiences, birth trauma, ob/gyn medical trauma, menstrual challenges, injuries to your tailbone or pelvis or you want to sort out some second chakra relational cords, I've had the honour of guiding many respectfully and carefully through these wounds in 1:1 healing work.



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