Why 'Nervous System Regulation' is a Buzzword now.
- 3 days ago
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I’ve been on tour in Southern Ontario this week!
👯♀️I travelled through Carleton Place, Ontario for a women’s business event with the chamber of commerce there.
🏎️I visited family in Kitchener and my brother in Toronto.
🔑I attended a full day women’s conference with “High Vibe Women” in Burlington.
🧬And I guided a half-day of HEALING WITH OUR ANCESTORS in Toronto.
What I learned at the women’s events was, “nervous system regulation” is trending.
In case it’s not all over your media feed…what do I mean by “nervous system regulation”?
We are responding to the world around us, and our own inner emotional world and self-talk all the time.
When it’s too much, or too harsh, our stress response goes off.
We brace, retract, tense, ramp up into fight or flight, or even shut down into a freeze.
We are built to handle this and move with the ebb and flow of life. That is resilience.
If we have enough comfort, joy, pleasure, calm and rest to return to, we can keep going with the flow.
But when:
the stress hits are constant (our demanding life),
or we have a long backlog of unhealed childhood pain (developmental trauma),
or big whammy impacts (shock trauma),
haven’t had the loving care they need to discharge from our body, nervous system and energy field—we can become dysregulated.
We start walking around with our dimmer switch ramped up to 11 1/2 out of 10.
We become tense, reactive, edgy.
Symptoms start to arise in our body as our physiology tries to contain or manage the excess charge in our bodies: headaches, sleep disturbance, muscle pain, inflammation, digestive disturbance, skin breakouts, hormone imbalances.
We may try to address the symptoms with diet, exercise or medical care, but results are usually incomplete due to the pent up physical and emotional energy underneath, driving dysregulation.
When we run out of steam, our dimmer switch collapses to 2 out of 10.
We become depressive, tired, foggy, uninspired, despairing.
Hardworking entrepreneurs everywhere are starting to recognize that high stress has a high cost.
Women’s business coaches are adding “trauma informed” and “somatic” to their resumes.
They recognize that all the strategy in the world isn’t enough if a person doesn’t have the bandwidth to implement it.
This is awesome.
I believe everyone benefits from understanding the physiology of stress and trauma.
We feel more like we make sense, when we learn that overwhelming events from the past that we could not process, don’t go away.
They hang around inside as:
An energy charge or block in our field
An incompletely expressed self-protection response in our nervous system
And the resulting symptoms in our body.
What irks me is that there are a lot of trainings floating around now that are bite sized doses of a full trauma training.
Many of them are fully online with no practice component or supervision.
Learning some simple exercises to settle your nervous system down is such good self-care.
But to reprocess the wounded parts of your experience that ‘talking it out’ hasn’t really put to rest once-and-for-all, most of us need expert accompaniment.
This includes understanding all the ‘categories of trauma’. This means, depending on how the energy of overwhelm got into you, it needs a different way to get back out.
If you are ready to stop managing the stress, grief, and pain you carry that many years of talk therapy haven’t yet unlayered from your body, I have space to work with you and 4 years of trauma training from the Somatic Experiencing Institute to guide you gently and safely.
Here are my pathways to a more regulated nervous system, and relief for you:
6 session Relief & Restore package
Learn how to drop into your body, meet stress where it lives and transform it so your beautiful life force can flow back up again.
6-12 session Healing Intensive, where we will work with both the personal and generational layers.
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